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  “We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier.                 Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships:  anger; resentments; feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing.                 If we have not put closure on a relationship, if we cannot walk away in peace, we have not learned our lesson. That may mean we will have to have another go-around with that lesson before we are ready to move on.                 We may want to do a Fourth Step (a written inventory of our relationships) and a Fifth Step (An admission of our wrongs). What feelings did we leave with in a particular relationship? Are we still carrying those feelings around? Do we want the heaviness ...
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Relationships are the Infinity War for me…

She suggested we get a joint bank account three months after our first date. I was hesitant...I told her that it was too soon.  Before she abruptly hung up from the Facetime Video she said, "You aren't ready to be in a relationship."  I was in my apartment 87 miles away.  Being me, not wanting to argue, I did not call back...for 6 days.  She texted me the morning of the 7th day and asked if I was interested in talking.  I was...because I loved her despite the sinking feeling that her idiosyncrasies were actually deal breakers for me.  And...I had realized  on day 3, I had left my deceased father's wristwatch and my XBOX in her living room on my last visit.  In month four I was trying to get in touch with my daughter, and opined about her current living arrangements.  Later that evening we argued about something trivial and our argument jumped the chasm from the immediate subject, to how she was not going to be party for me to chase after my "...
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Very few relationships are all good. Very few are all bad. And one way or another all relationships will end. Because none of us last forever.
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