“We want to travel baggage-free on this journey. It makes the trip easier.

                Some of the baggage we can let go of is lingering feelings and unfinished business with past relationships:  anger; resentments; feelings of victimization, hurt, or longing.

                If we have not put closure on a relationship, if we cannot walk away in peace, we have not learned our lesson. That may mean we will have to have another go-around with that lesson before we are ready to move on.

                We may want to do a Fourth Step (a written inventory of our relationships) and a Fifth Step (An admission of our wrongs). What feelings did we leave with in a particular relationship? Are we still carrying those feelings around? Do we want the heaviness and impact of that baggage on our behavior today?

                Are we still feeling victimized, rejected, or bitter about something that happened two, five, ten, or even twenty years ago?

                It may be time to let it go. It may be time to open ourselves to the true lessons from that experience. It may be time to put past relationships to rest, so we are free to go on to new, more rewarding experiences.

                We can choose to live in the past, or we can choose to finish our old business from the past and open ourselves o the beauty of today.

                Let go of your baggage from past relationships.”

 

Today, I (Kelly) will open myself to the cleansing and healing process that will put closure on yesterday and open me to the best today, and tomorrow, has to offer in my relationships. I will close the door on dwelling on the past either through my own rumination, or at the behest of a new love interest’s urgent questioning that exceeds further than a courteous “right to know” to support a burgeoning relationship, but extends or devolves toward a present condemnation for my past relationships.

 

Beatie, Melody (1990). Pg 161, (Hanging on to Old Relationships) “The Language of Letting Go”  Hazelden Publishing.