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Look who is coming to dinner...

Here is some holiday news for everyone.

I am assuming my rite of passage as an adult, parent, and independent person has come to fruition. My wife and I are hosting Thanksgiving dinner at our house this year. Some guests that are coming besides family are some friends of ours. Sam and Erica, and their newborn daughter Olivia. Sam missed Erica's entire pregnancy and birth, but he is making up for lost time as you can see in this picture.

My wife, Renee, and Erica met in college and have been friends ever since. I only met Sam through my marriage to Renee. Sam is a Captain in the Marine Corps and has recently come off deployment to Iraq. Sam did not go to our Alma Mater, he went to the University of Minnesota where he pledged Alpha Phi Alpha, I went to the same school that Erica and Renee went to, and I pledged Kappa Alpha Psi....if you know anything about black college Fraternities you would realize that Kappas and Alphas are like oil and water. But despite his bad decisions in military branch and Fraternity we get along just fine.

I am thankful for a lot of things this year, but

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